Today was an important day - the long term plan was presented to Momu and Popa. Dad (aka Peter, son) arrived at Meadowbrook around 9:30 am, met with the entire staff and then brought Momu and Popa into the discussion. The message to Momu (Popa is passive and will go along with anything) is that it is Unsafe to be at home without 24/7 help. She is unable to take care of Popa, let along herself. At Meadowbrook all their daily needs are being taken care of and addressed. They are getting 3 square meals a day, the meds are being monitored, their activity/therapy is being given daily. This was NOT happening at home and as a result, Momu ended up completely overwhelmed and stressed, resorted to some extra beer and gin and ended up in the hospital.
The day progressed nicely, Samantha and I AND DAISY arrived around noon. Everyone was so happy to see Daisy, but Momu was very happy to see Samantha, as was Popa. The other great thing that happened today is that Momu moved into a private room, right next door to Popa. Not yet together in the same room, but a HUGE step in the right direction! Relief that helped with the delivery of the Long Term Plan. Momu and Popa fed Daisy some of their lunch, thankfully it was baked chicken. Samantha, Daisy and me left around 2:00.
Samantha and I went back to Meadowbrook around 4:00 pm, Popa was in Momu's bed in her new room. We started talking about stuff and were watching Dr. Oz having a nice visit. But then somehow a 'chair' from the house was mentioned and Momu sort of snapped. She said to keep stuff in their house for when they come home. Dad then had to remind Momu of the meeting in the morning about how it was unsafe to go home, Popa needed to be here, etc. She then started to cry. She went into the bathroom. Dad then proceeded to tell Popa that Momu was upset because we want her to stay at Meadowbrook. Again, Popa is passive and will go along with whatever. Momu came out of the bathroom, still sobbing and sad. Samantha went to the liquor store to get her some Beefeaters Gin and olives. We gave her a small amount. We all ended up leaving about 5:50 and she was still crying.
It is sad, it sucks to get old, but for whoever is reading this - the social workers and staff at Meadowbrook all agree we all have to be consistent with the message - "it is unsafe to go home, Popa needs to be supervised around the clock, and the most important thing is that the are together under the same roof".
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